Thursday, February 9, 2017

Mind Over Matter

 
Mind: the element of a person that enables them to be aware of the world and their experiences, to think, and to feel; the faculty of consciousness and thought.

Our minds are incredible, you know.

Because I like to keep it real, I wanted to share this with you.
A few Sundays ago, I just couldn't get it together.
I mean, like for real, was just in a funk - I remember standing during worship and not even wanting to close my eyes or try to even focus because each time I did...all I "heard" on repeat in this mind of mine was negative.

ALL I HEARD WAS NEGATIVE.

You're not enough...
You're not showing love.
You're not being the mom you need to be.
You're not measuring up at work.
You're too small.
You're not being a good enough friend.
You're not ever going to make a difference.
Who do you think you're kidding?!

And this is SO not me.
I even remember shaking my head trying to will these thoughts to just leave.

I think this happens to each of us at some point (or many points) in our life.
We get in our comfort zones and then something happens and gets you off balance just a little...but even just a little can feel overwhelming. 

For me, it was a wake up call - I was like, "Come on Jenny Girl...get it together!!!"
I honestly let a series of "things" - emails, conversations, observations, etc - that previous week, get to me.


But, here's what I reminded myself:
I may very well NOT be many things, but I know who I am and who I want to be. 

And on days when those overwhelming voices want to jump in my mind, that's when I'm thankful for the people in my life.  My tribe.


I was reminded how surrounding myself with people in my life who know me well enough to know when my tank needs to be filled with an encouraging word, a phone call or text, a coffee (or tea) date, a hug, a prayer...is essential.
Who's your tribe?

Are they the people you need in your tribe?

Or do you need to look at starting a new one?

Just something to think about.

Here's the deal - quite honestly, I think you'll find there will be a few that will be in your tribe no matter what.  No matter where life takes you.
I've been blessed to have that friend in my life and there's just something about knowing you have someone who knows the good, the bad, the happy, the sad - they're irreplaceable.

But I also know that sometimes, you also need to make smaller tribes for the "here and now" and maybe for certain seasons.  This year I've made some personal goals and I know to help accomplish them, I have to expand my tribe some. 
And that's a little unnerving. 
To let people who don't "know" you in, and share your hopes and dreams with, can be scary, but it's an important process in learning that we're better together and we aren't always meant to do things on our own.

I'm reminding myself that I just need to be me.

I'm not always going to be the best at being a wife.
And that's ok.
I'm not always going to be the best at being a mom.
And that's ok.
I'm not always going to know what I'm doing at work.
And that's ok.
I'm definitely done growing so will not be your "average" woman.
And that's ok.
I'm not always going to be the best at being a friend.
And that's ok.
I may not end up making a difference.
And that's ok.

But I will always strive to be me.
I might be a mess, but I'll sure embrace it!

I encourage you all to do the same!

Find your tribe, my friends.
That may mean letting go of some people that don't need to be in your life.
It may mean letting someone new in!

But find people you can be YOU with!

xox,
Jenny

1 comment:

  1. The great thing about this is that God knows that we are imperfect! So, in His infinite wisdom and agape love, He first offered us His GRACE through the atoning sacrifice of Jesus, and then Jesus gave us the gift of the Holy Spirit. Without the Holy Spirit we are like a body without a spine. With the "spine" of the Holy Spirit we are able fulfill the purpose that God gave us. We are always going to fall short. . . . .that's just the facts. The great thing is, we don't have to depend on our own strength. All we have to do is lay back on God and allow his strength to shine. God always has a way of bringing people into each others lives just when one or both need each other. His intent was for no one to be an "island". He created us for relationship with Him and with each other. Of all the many things we do to fulfill our purpose is to encourage one another. You always encourage me!

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