Monday, May 2, 2016

Get In Where You Fit In

"Happy Mothers Day!"

Three small words that had a huge impact on me this past week.  
As we were exiting the Jersey turnpike making the last of the stretch home I squealed with delight on the inside!
The toll booth attendant recognized me as a Mom!

For those who don't know me, I truly am a little mama!  Our 12 year old surpassed me in size over a year ago and our almost 8 year old won't be too far behind...they definitely don't get their height from me.  Most people joke with Phil that he has 3 daughters...

Yeah, that always goes over real well.

And I know, I know...one day I will appreciate my small size, but, there's still more times than not, I feel like I just don't "fit in."

I feel like maybe I'm not enough.

I have a twin sister, I call her Mello, and we've never been the same size.
And maybe that's why I let it get to me more than I should because, for a long time, I felt like I needed to be like her...she's your "average" size.
My mom didn't have to search for special stores at Prom time for dresses, shoes, and seamstresses for her.  
No one comments on how little her feet are.
Or asks her how old she is.
What size clothes she wears.
How much she weighs.
If she's old enough to even be working.
How I was ever able to carry babies inside me...

Yes, these are questions I get asked. 
All.  
The. 
Time.

And, once again...this feeling creeps in.
"I'm just not enough."

Big enough.
That's where it starts.
But that just opens the door to more stinking thinking.

I know some of you have been where I can quickly get to...
We let one insult or comment sink in and start to settle and remind us of all we are not.

Well, how about we start turning that around and let God remind us of ALL we ARE!  We ALL have weaknesses and areas of our life where we fill like we just aren't enough.  2 Corinthians 12 tells us this:

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.


I was at dinner with two of my girl friends almost 2 years ago when I shared this (and so much more) with them and how I struggled with it so much and that somehow, someway, I wanted to be able to write about it one day. To encourage others that we are enough just because God made us EXACTLY how He wanted us.  

You know one size doesn't fit all...but Jesus fits all sizes!

That's a good word, huh?!?

We don't have to be "average" for him to love us.
Because He loves us just as we are!

Seriously...
I still struggle with this, I absolutely HATE shopping for clothes and shoes for me.
HATE IT!
With a passion.
BUT...I'm seeing more and more that God uses us just as we are.

Short.  Tall.  Handicapped.  Blind.  Deaf.  Light skin.  Dark skin.  Young.  Old.  Tattooed. Rich.  Poor.  Popular.  Not so Popular.  Simply struggling.  

Now, yes - there are times we need to try harder. 
And this isn't about that.
This is about us learning to love us for exactly who we are and what God can use us for.

Don't let your "weakness" get the best of you!
Remind yourself who you are in Him!
When you have a friend struggling with a "weakness" - remind them that they are enough.
It's that simple.
Send someone a text simply saying - YOU ARE ENOUGH!
We are better together and I know there have been plenty of times where God used a friend (or tollbooth attendant) to remind me that I am enough!

Instead of seeing what they're not - Let's love people for what they got!
Let's get in where we fit in!!!



 

4 comments:

  1. LOVE YOU! ��

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  2. LOVE YOU! ��

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  3. You have always been enough for me, your loving dad! You are so gifted by the Holy Spirit!

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  4. ❤️❤️❤️ You are amazing!! Just look at where you are going....you are following his plan for you and it will be a blessing to many!! You are Enough😘

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